My Relationship is Over Now What?


So, it’s over, you’ve parted ways, maybe you’ll eventually be friends or maybe enemies. But that’s all up in the air. You were in love, thought it would never end but now you have to face the cold empty bed alone. Cuddle with your pillows and just feel your own breath on your skin. Cooking is not the same, because there’s no one to cook for. You engulf yourself in erotic novels and reality shows to find some way of coping with the hurt. Mama says it will get better, daddy says there’s another fish in the sea. Your friends are overly sympathetic and nothing helps. Tears stain your face every time you pass that familiar place, or reminisce about a special moment shared. You lock yourself in your home beneath the shadows of depression and food, the internet has become your safe haven for now. Life is not worth living without them, no use in going out anymore, because you feel that every one else you’ll meet will be the same.

 

Hate sets in and you want revenge, maybe harassing phone calls from a blocked number will give you a laugh, but when they go ignored maybe busting windows and slashing tires will help the pain pass. But nothing seems to help. You try to figure out what’s wrong with you, aren’t you good enough? Pretty enough? Smart enough? Why didn’t it work? The reel continues to roll in your head about what you could have said or done to save it, but in reality none of it would have worked. You start to feel stuck, no moving forward and no going back just stuck. You take a pause as life continues to move. And then you start to face the music, they aren’t coming back, its over, done, finished, the final straw, the fat lady has sang her note. So where did you go wrong? And what do you to fix it?

 

You went wrong when you put your relationship before God, you went wrong when you compromised to accommodate sin, now you’re paying the price for being “unequally yoked.”  You went wrong when church wasn’t an option anymore and Sunday football was the highlight of the week. You went wrong when you got in the bed before marriage and became a fornicator. You went wrong when you thought sex would guarantee that the relationship would last. You went wrong when you let go of your inhibitions,  and let go of God.

 

So, now you know where the enemy trapped you let’s get you out.

 

1.      SEEK Him{Matthew 6:33}But seek ye first the kingdom of God , and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”

2.      TRUST His Plan-{Jeremiah 29:11} “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”

3.      FOCUS- {Colossians 3:2}Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.”

4.      THINK Righteously– {Philippians 4:8} “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”  {2 Corinthians 10:5} “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”

5.      LIVE in the Present – {2 Corinthians 5:17} “Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things are passed away; behold, new things have come.”

6.      KEEP your guard up: {Ephesians 6:10-18}  “10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.”

7.      Satan wants to KILL YOU: {Luke 22:10 GWB} “Then the Lord said, “Simon, Simon, listen! Satan has demanded to have you apostles for himself. He wants to separate you from me as a farmer separates wheat from husks.”

8.      CONDUCT yourself as a Christian- {1 Thessalonians 5: 12-22} we ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, and give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. Do not quench the Spirit.  Do not despise prophecies, but test everything; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil.

*Just Call Me Justified

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6 Comments

  1. October 15, 2010 at 11:07 pm

    Great read, truth be told. You can do all of the above and still be left alone.

    • Gold Jasper said,

      October 16, 2010 at 1:10 am

      Love The Scriptures and All Words True.

  2. Letiticia said,

    October 16, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    Wow. This is so real!! The fact that the Word of God backs up everything you said gives this a power packed punch!!

  3. tnt868 said,

    October 16, 2010 at 1:43 pm

    Came at a perfect time. great reading! every bit of it was me. BUT my question is, what if your life changes to the reciprocal (sp) and thats not the lifestyle the next person is comfortable with? how many ppl do you have to go through? how long do you wait?

  4. REGINALD said,

    January 29, 2011 at 6:15 pm

    The ENTIRE word of GOD is true and divine but for some reason this writing puts great emphasis on fornication as a devout sin(sin is sin in GOD site), this is a popular subject for young black woman when it comes to fulfilling gods word that they throw in mens faces, needless to say there are a host of other sins that they continuously and perhaps uncontiously commitIing all the time. PRIME EXAMPLE OF WHAT I’M SAYING, THE WOMAN WHO SENT ME THIS LINK(God knows I love her to death) HAS A LIST OF SINS and shortcomings not pleasable to GOD(according to the Bible that I read) FROM HERE TO IRAC. BUT THIS ACT OF FORNICATION IS USED AS A SCOLDING TOOL TO INPORTRATE AN ANGEL IN A DEVILS SKIN TO MANIPULATE A MAN, AND FALSELY BUILD HER EGO UP THINKING GOD IS ONLY WATCHING HER PERPETRATION OF FORNICATION ACTIONS WHILE EVERYTHING ELSE GOES UNPAID FOR, HER OTHER SINS ARE FORGIVABLE BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS ON THE CROSS, lets be true to thy self, do you think you are fooling GOD.I DOUBT IT VERY SERIOUSLY.
    No man is going to comitt to a woman to marriage before testing the intimacy of the woman he intends to spend his life with in this day and time.NOW DAYS THAT IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT MOTIVATING CHARACTERISTICS OF A WOMAN THAT A MAN CLINGS ON TO TO FULFILL THE ACTUAL PROMISE TO MARRY HER .MEN NOWADAYS, UNLIKE HOW THEY USED TO BE, WERE PATIENT WITH HER IN SAVING HERSELF WAS FINE, SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY WERE WOMAN OF CHARACTER AND NOT WOMAN DISPLAYING ROLLERCOASTER ATTITUDES AND DISPOSITIONS, THEY BROUGHT THINGS TO THE TABLE THAT CONSISTED OF GOOD WHOLESOME MORALS AND VALUES, HUMBLE SPIRITS AND HEARTS OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. IF A WOMAN WANTS TO GET A MAN TO THE ALTER NOW DAYS SHE BETTER USE WHAT SHE KNOWS HOW TO USE, BECAUSE THE NATURALISTIC MAN AS A LEADER AND PROTECTOR HAS NOTHING TO CLING ON TO AS A HELPMATE IN A WOMAN. THE WOMAN AS A GIFT FROM GOD SUBJECT TO THE MAN PROTECTING HER FROM THE WORLD AND PROVIDING FOR HER WENT OUT THE DOOR RUNNING BEHIND HER BAD ATTITUDE.
    BE BLESSED

  5. September 16, 2012 at 10:34 pm

    Reblogged this on Just Call Me Justified.


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